I hate my life so much

I wasn’t sure what to say just yet. I have a hard time relating to religious people, because they base their entire perception of reality on a fantastical idea called “God.” I am fully aware of many of the reasons this occurs, but it bothers me nonetheless. It also makes it very difficult to exchange ideas, because “those people” have a mental construct which is utterly incompatible with my own. There are many of them out there, and this often causes me feelings of isolation, ostracism, persecution and deep resentment.

So… how do i help a morbidly obese guy who believes in god, and basically has nothing else to rely on? I have no idea.

You need to get healthy dude. You need to start caring enough about yourself to fight for the better life you want. I’m not saying you’re lazy or aren’t fighting already, as i’m sure being so overweight is a war in its own right… but perhaps your energy could be more effective when applied to different targets than those which you have already poured into, so much of yourself.

I have to say that your wife must adore you, because helping someone wipe their own ass is a dealbreaker for most people. Still, i doubt she’s willing to continue doing so for an extended period of time. You’ll need to correct that.

Also, sometimes SP is just “dead” like that, or perhaps those who are present are not, at this moment, prepared to deal with a heavy crisis. Sometimes we might not even be around at all. Other times, we might not have any idea what to say, or how to even begin to approach relating to someone’s story (possibly due to what i described about myself, above, or possibly for any number of other reasons).

I know it sucks to feel trapped in life, trapped in despair, wishing you had a way to make the bad things tolerable… and having nothing but wishes and desperation to pass the time until the next requirement arrives to compel you into some series of actions you’d rather avoid entirely.

Try to relax. Try to “recharge” yourself, both physically and mentally, and then figure out a goal that you think you can reach, to make things better for yourself (and no, ending it all doesn’t count)… and then give it your best. Analyze your performance. Did you succeed? Were you close? Was there no hope at all of completing the objective? Is there an adjustment you can make in the next attempt, that will increase your chance of success? Should the goal be abandoned, and a different goal chosen?

The hardest part of life, sometimes, is figuring out what you want, and what you can do, and where those things overlap. And if they don’t overlap, figuring out if you can make them connect, somehow. Beyond that… despite what many of us are told, some things are indeed impossible, and we should spend our time and energy on things we can actually accomplish, instead of wasting ourselves on impossible fantasies.

If you try, you can lose weight, and that would likely be a significant improvement in many areas of your life. You’ll feel better, you’ll have a better attitude, you’ll be more likely to be hired anywhere you might be qualified to work.

Maybe start by minimizing your personal requirements to just get through each day. Cut out all the non-essential stuff, and focus on the important parts… like your health and wellness.

And when you feel like just losing it and lashing out at the world, and anyone nearby… don’t. Try to breathe, try to relax, and maintain self-control. Don’t allow yourself to do anything you’ll regret later… no matter how much it may seem like the other person deserves it.

One step at a time, lots of patience, and don’t quit.

Best i can do right now.