I am sick of the bullshit that people say to me about suicide. All are invalid or just something they say because they dont know what to say.
“it gets better” – are you personally guaranteeing that? in reality it can also and more likely get WORSE
“someone loves you stay alive for them” – If suicide is selfish isn’t demanding someone to stay for you despite their pain and misery even more selfish?
“suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem” – unless of course the problem is permanent then the solution is perfect. I dont think a temporary solution for a permanent problem is very helpful. If the problem is temporary suicide is still a solution none the less
“God never gives you more than you can handle” – I’d prefer if he would give me LESS than what he thought I could handle because Im not handling this shit very well at all
“Other people in 3rd world countries have it worse” – Oh so what you are saying is despite my own bullshit and problems I should compare them to others and be happy that their problems are worse. perfect logic.
“you can pull yourself out this slump” – this is the equivalent of giving someone a waterhose when they are on fire and drenched in oil and telling them to put themselves out.
“I didnt raise you to be weak minded” – I don’t think people can choose if they are weak minded just like they cant choose if they are intelligent its either you are or you aren’t
“suicide is murder and you will answer to god” – If this is true I will give him an honest answer. Can he be angry at me for being weak?
“suicide is the cowards/easy way out” – It takes courage to kill yourself just as much as it takes courage to live the deciding factor is which one you fear more Life or death? and it is not the “easy” way out. If it were easy a LOT more serious attempts would be completed suicides
“suicidal people dont hesitate they just do it” – this is true for some that commit suicide on impulse but most of us carefully plan our exits with consideration for others and what we want to happen after the fact.
“everybody goes thru something in life” – people go thru high school not 100% make it thru. People go thru car accidents not 100% make it thru. People go thru surgery not 100% make it thru. people go thru something in life….not 100% make it thru
“what about all the future things you will miss” – Im sure I won’t enjoy my future as today was once the future and by all means I would have ended it LONG ago had I known what was to become of me and Im sure I wont miss more depression or homelessness or possibly becoming involuntarily detained in somebodies psych ward
“you wont see another sunset, sunrise etc” – Ive seen enough already
“You have so much to live for” – yes like waking up and knowing Im a fucking failure ass piece of shit who cant do shit wont be shit and will never be shit..
I cant think of anymore now but please stop saying shit like this because it doesn’t help
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Good list! I also hate all of the cliches and platitudes we get from people.
Yup, it all goes in one ear and out the other.
they think they are helping but they are not they are only minimizing my issues
yeah this a great list man. heard em all. God doesnt give you more than you can handle is one of the worst. such bullshit. also, the fact that you’re in so much pain and made it this far shows you’re strong minded. fuck those people who think you’re weak cuz you aint. everybody goes thru something in life is soooo annoying. cuz some ppl’s problems are fuckity duckity walks through the park. lets be honest some people’s problems are fucking ridiculous. to compare what i’ve fought through the past 5 years alone with somebody having a relational issue with bf or gf is fuckin hysterical. yeah everybody goes through something. not everybody goes through a hell that never ends. you know what it is.
I got my own issues too. Besides suicidality, I’m infuriated by the stigma that comes attached with an [*]. It is all so damn facile.
Have you ever tried making a list of things to throw your life away for?
@umbra a stigma that comes with what? whats [*]?
We are all on this site because we have run out of reasons to stay and are unsure of if we really don’t want to live.
I know I have used one or two of those phrases (the phrases that focus on hope that things will get better) towards someone trying to lessen the pain because I don’t know what to say to them sometimes.
None of us do…great post. Reminds me of the disgust, anger and just sheer rage we all likely carry in waking up feeling this way every day.
“It gets better” drives me out of my f/cking mind! I have an incurable wasting genetic disorder by definition, it will get worse and not better. I am told to hold out hope for some kind of miracle treatment that does not exist and is extremely unlikely to ever exist. And then I am told by brazen healthy people that I have a negative attitude.
This world, does not get better. We wake every day in a world of bloodshed, that does not change. I wake every day going mad knowing that animals are screaming in pain all over the world and knowing I’d do anything to save them and am trapped being able to do nothing.
For all the happy-clappy “it get’s better” crowd, please think before you speak. Those words can be painful and instill false hope. It did not get better for the victims of 9/11, they were forced to throw themselves out of the buildings because things DID NOT GET BETTER. It did not get better for holoucaust victims who threw themselves at electrified fences because they knew they could never escape. It does not get better for victims of wasting genetic disease. “oh but there’s heaven”…..great there’s heaven with the god who brutally tortured us. I suppose we’ll all eat cookies with god after we’re butchered then.
when someone says these things to me I just want to scream. Its like they want to put a band aid on a deep wound but it doesnt help
@rach EXACTLY like why the fuck do people say things they cant possibly know about.
Many of these listed comments are cliche and over used, but what else can you say to a person that you only just started to know about. And the only way you can connect to them is through the text that they wrote. But even though these comments are cliche what about the ones that are in every other post?
Many of these listed comments are cliche and over used, but what else can you say to a person that you only just started to know about. And the only way you can connect to them is through the text that they wrote. But even though these comments are cliche what about the ones that are in every other post?
@killswitchon; [*] was to keep personal issues private but whatever– I was talking about eating disorders. Read my lengthy comment on “Trying to Hold on” by “martinloses” then you’ll see what I mean.
@Gaara I read it. I see. i got a similar stigma with mental health. same shit. it gets annoying but i cant really care anymore.
@killswitchon; Ah I’m glad you understand.*Sigh of relief* Well, eating disorders are in fact mental disorders. I keep my ED on the down-low because I’m sick of treacly sentiments e.g., “Oh honey, don’t be silly, you’re beautiful”. Dammit. I know I’m beautiful – I DON’T have fucking low self-esteem. Jeez.
Anyways, killswitchon, thank you.