all of my â€œfriendsâ€ couldnâ€™t care about me and recently iâ€™m realizing that. i lost one of my â€œclosestâ€ friends last thursday because he called me a self-centered b**** and claimed heâ€™d been there for me through everything and i hadnâ€™t given a f*** about him once and never did for anybody. for once, i actually stood up for myself and told him that he was wrong and that sparked things. now weâ€™re not talking.
i miss days from school a lot too and not once has anyone asked in the past few months where iâ€™d been or if i was alright. they donâ€™t even care. i always have to be the first to start conversations, be the first to go over to someone and be the first to do anything or else they just donâ€™t make the effort and that bothers me. i feel like if i stopped making the effort first, not turning up to school and being more quiet they wouldnâ€™t even care/notice.
when i really think about it, itâ€™s been like that for quite a long time. i just feel like iâ€™ve got a really boring, pathetic personality. iâ€™m not overly-outgoing, iâ€™m not really funny, iâ€™m not good at speaking with people, i donâ€™t know what to say half the time, iâ€™m not loaded with interesting facts/things to say, iâ€™m just boring. iâ€™m quiet unless iâ€™m around my friends, iâ€™m scared of confrontation, iâ€™m a push-over, iâ€™m too caring and i put too much belief and love in people who really donâ€™t care. i try so hard to be a good person and to help people and listen to what people have to say but it always comes and hits me back in the face. i donâ€™t know why i have such shitty friends and i donâ€™t know why little shitty things keep happening because i try so fucking hard to be a good person that people can always fall back on when everything else leaves them. i am constantly trying to help other people, trying to solve their issues for them or being someone they can rant to and all i seem to get back for it is nothing. itâ€™s not that i want anything back, i really donâ€™t. i just wish that people would be a little grateful for how much i listen and how much i let them walk all over me and not turn their back on me and ignore me when they donâ€™t need me anymore.
iâ€™ve always tried to make other peoples lives better even if that means mine is made worse and i feel like i should try and change that but i donâ€™t know how or if i could. when i try to stand up for myself or be aggressive i beat myself up for days afterwards because it just feels so wrong. iâ€™m naturally just a nice person and i know that should be a good thing but i really hate it and i wish that i could be a bit more confident in myself and more able to stand up for myself. the massive downfall with being an overcaring person as well is whenever you hurt someone you love even a little bit, your whole world just shatters and itâ€™s affects you for days and itâ€™s the most painful thing. i just hate myself so much, ahaha.
A boring personality? Hm i dont think that can be said about anyone. Maybe boring to some but everyones different. Maybe you just like different things? I have a weird personality because theres not many people I actually have a lot in common with….you deserve a thank you though for being there for people when they need someone the most. Selflessness isn’t always gratifying though.
I too, like you, am starving for affection.
I know how it feels to always be making the moves, always be alone, and feeling like noone cares. I posted on this a bit ago, the post is called starving for affection, give it a read, is that how you feel, maybe a little?
You can always email me if you wish and I’ll respond and talk.
My email is firstname.lastname@example.org