Okay well first of all Hi my name is Karalyn and this is my first post so yea, hi!
I am 12 years old [pretty young for this website I know..] Anyways,
I was at the mall with my older sister one time, and I wanted to go to Hot Topic, But every time I ask.. My sister would say “You’re a freak for walking in there and wearing their clothes” I don’t know if she notices but it hurts me and that’s one of the reasons I cry to school. I feel that everyone just thinks that I’m a freak who wears all black and band shirts. But I think it is perfectly fine to dress the way you want. But for some reason all my sister does is bring up how I’m a suicidal freak? and how all I wear is weird clothes? She really doesn’t understand that, that is who I am and it hurts to know that my sister thinks I’m a freak just like the other girls at school think too. I dont know… Plus my mother sometimes would bring up how I used to try suicide and stuff. But I always fake a smile to ignore conversations like that but she does it anyways! Now my mother is even getting me into therapy I just hate it!!! Honestly, to me.. Talking about my suicidal problems will just make me feel worse and I just don’t know what to do anymore 🙁 ;c So all I need is just some advice? Please and thank you.
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I wear a fair bit of black, but not enough to say “a lot”.. However I’ve been told by my peers in the past that I don’t wear enough “colour” and it makes me seem emo – which is fair enough, but I just wear a lot of dark colours rather than black, so I find this quite amusing.
Personally I don’t like bright colours and do not believe that they suit my skin tone.. so I usually wear light or dark colours (or anything in between). My parents think black is an inappropriate colour to wear because it’s what you’d wear to a funeral, hence it reminds them of death and not something a young person should wear. On the other side of the spectrum, my mum also complains when I wear white because it makes me look like a “ghost”. So how can I win? How can you win?
Just don’t worry about what other people say.. wear whatever you want (so long it isn’t too inappropriate: offensive wording, too much skin, etc). Wear what you like and what makes you feel good. If you really want to please your mother or your sister you could buy something in a colour and style they’d like (which you also like) and wear it once a fortnight maybe.
Don’t cry over clothes, at least you have some, eh? Anyone who has a problem with what you wear is just going have to deal with it. Someone is bound to compliment you on it sometime anyways.
Hey Karalyn, never be afraid to be who you are. You said, you think the way you dress is fine and it is. All what really matters is what makes you feel like you and comfortable. Your too young to be conforming to BS social norms and standards. Dress the way you want. You have the perfect opportunity to dress anyway you want when your young.
Most of the time people usually comment on other peoples appearance due to their own insecurities and faults. Maybe your sister is a bit insecure or shallow, I don’t mean offense. Maybe the people who tease you are just cowardice at the fact that they must conform to the norm so they do not stand out and be different, and or are too afraid to really express who they are due to judgment of others.
So please don’t call yourself a freak. You are not. You may be different but being different is way better than being everyone else. Being different only proves you have a mind of your own and do things for you, not others. Trust me I used to and still am the same, I used to rock punk rock and band shirts and black all the time, but I didn’t care. I didn’t dress the way I did for anyone except me. Because in the end that’s what really matters.
But about the suicidal problems, there are many people, including me, who would gladly listen to you and help you out as much as possible.
Take care.
Karalyn, i was (kind of still am) alot like you. My brother and sister would go further tho and say they hated me. Take the help your mom is offering. All my mom ever did is b!tch about how i would look so pretty if i just dressed a certain way and put on makeup. I know you dont want to talk about it but it might help. As for your sister talking her crap i cant really help you there. Mine still does 11 years later :/. I find tho that its more a jealousy issue and that could be your case too.