i know that my parents love me and want the best for me since I’m their only daughter but they don’t have to be rude about it. I stopped cutting 2 months ago after breaking a 3 year period because of my mother. She calls me a dumba** because i forgot to wear my brace while playing basketball with the guys at my school, I don’t understand since my doctor told me I didn’t need it anymore. Not only that but when I try to talk to her calmly she makes me cry and says “Don’t be a little bi*** stop crying, you know what don’t even talk to me”. As if I cry on purpose!! Is it bad, to be terrified of my mom? Why do the Voices in my head tell me to just end my life, would it be better? I just…I feel like i have no one…my friends don’t even believe me sometimes, can that also be whats causing my Voices telling me to commit suicide?
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You should not have to be afraid of your mother! She seems to have the parenting skills of a concentration camp guard and has a strange way of showing she wants the best for you. If she did she would not verbally berate you in this fashion, especially since you have a history of self harm. When will people, in particular parents, learn that words are the most deadly weapon of all? Your mother needs to get a dose of reality or she may lose a precious child, one way or another.
Since you are on a sports team, I wonder if you could talk to your coach (if you trust him/her) or a counselor at school. May I ask what country you live in? There may be a peer group/counseling organization that can help you find the h
My young friend, getting your mother to understand the damage she is doing will not be easy, but you have a God given right to be happy and safe in your own home.
verbal abuse is extremely damaging. parents often have a funny way of showing love. they think they are justified in their methods just coz they are older n are ur parents…i have been verbally assaulted by my mother numerous times. she apologized later for her choice of words. but that dint stop her from using them again..the point is whether in anger or out of concern, abusive language can be degrading to one’s sense of self. it is very imp to make it very clear to your parents asap that this can’t go on. you will need the help of someone. maybe from school. or some relatives if u can think of someone. third party intervention is necessary in this case
I’d suggest doing whatever you possibly can to get away from you’re mother, she sounds terribly abusive, even if not physically, but still verbally, mentally, and emotionally.
I suggest telling your school counselor and asking for help to be, at least temporarily, removed from the home. You can’t hide anything, show your scars, let them know what she does to you. I am so sorry, you are so much more valuable than the way you are being treated.