I’m just thinking and looking for other thoughts on something. The “something” is a quote: “Sometimes you put up walls not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.” What comes to mind when I read this and mulled it over a bit … typical nonsense Hallmark-esque crap. Maybe it’s just me, though, which is why I hope to hear some different perspectives. It seems childish to “put up walls” just for the sake of finding out who gives a shit, much like “playing hard to get” in dealing with a potential romantic interest. If I’m putting up walls, it’s because I don’t want anyone getting close. Again, maybe it’s just me. I use others as an emotional crutch as little as possible, so perhaps it doesn’t really matter to me whether anyone cares or not. Anyone else doing things the same way, or is the above quote a legitimate thing that I just don’t know about?
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Yes, I’d say it is legit, for some people. Reminds me of a girl I know actually. When I questioned her about why she is so defensive, she said “Sometimes I wish I could have less walls, but then again I’m thankful. It lets me figure out which people are worth knowing and hanging around”. A viable strategy I guess, but one I could see backfiring.
Some people are very reliant on others, so they have to be careful who they let into their lives, and through repeated failures (something these types of people don’t take very well), they learn to be very cautious getting attached in any way. To the point where these kinds of “tests” might seem necessary to them. But I would say that, for the most part, there is no particular reason other than caution.
Makes sense to me. Thanks for the thought, River!