So this girl and I went out and we both have a hard life alcohol, I smoke weed, I have abusive parents always bullied we broke up but remained friends we both cut she saved my life because when I met her I was planning suicide we both started cutting again after the break up and we promised each other we wouldn’t cut again and I told her if she cuts then I will to. Two weeks ago she broke the promise she cut and so later that day I to did to all in this day she told me she loves me she told me she cut again and she wants to go out again.So I cut because she did but she doesn’t know should I tell her I cut to make her stop again and show I wasn’t lieing also I didn’t just cut because her I’ve been depressed lately and been holding back the urge till she broke her promise I just need advise what to do to get her to stop. And my best friend hates Emos and makes fun of emos should I tell him I cut? Sorry for bad grammar and spelling errors idgaf how it came out the only person that new I cut was her and now you wonderful internet people please help me 🙁
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I’m sorry that things took a bad turn for you. Cutting is an addiction as you know and making promises doesn’t work very well for people like us. I get it – I understand the compassion and trust between you and your friend and why making an “I won’t if you won’t” promise seems to be supportive or maybe even a solution – but the problem is far more complicated than that. It’s more powerful of an example for someone you are close to if you can say “I haven’t cut for three months and If I can make so can you.” That way you are taking responsibility for yourself instead of deferring the responsibility to the other person – that can end up being added pressure that can actually enable them to fail.
If you can show you love yourself enough not to cut you can put that aside for a moment and then focus on helping each other with the things that are causing the pain that enables the cutting. You might even consider talking to a professional or getting into meetings together. The key is to isolate the cutting for what it is and then start talking about the problems causing your pain. This will help take some of the power away from the cutting and you may have more emotional strength to help each other.
Don’t give up.