I have interview tomorrow. and it is making me sick. why can’t they just select me on my merit? i performed better than many in written exam. but no, interview is a must. afterall they need to judge my personality. I just can’t endure an unworthy, stupid person judging me. if he were some sort of a philosopher, i would be more than happy to answer his questions. but this tom, dick and harry asking me to introduce myself, tell him my strengths and weaknesses! to please him, impress him?!! who he thinks he is!! and there will be not 1 but 5 of them, including one female. i will die before telling anybody my positive qualities. and upon this, what bothers me more than anything else, is that they require you to converse in english. never in my entire lifetime in this job will i ever be required to converse in english with anybody. but no, they want you to give interview in english, just because people of so called developed, civilized western world use english. so it is considered professional, modern. wearing a coat and a tie gives you additional edge (to this day i can’t understand the function of a tie). i hate it, i loathe all this hypocrisy. it is said that losing your language is equivalent to losing your soul. i can’t feel the words.
I know i am going to fuck up. I can’t stand anybody judging me. even though it’s a clerical level job, the salary of which can hardly sustain anybody, the competition is overwhelming. they need to select 33,000 out of 1,00,000 (and that’s after the written, which was given by some 15,00,000). 33 out of 100. 3 out of 10. even if it was 9 out of 10, i would be the one that goes out. They judge your confidence, your fluency, connection between your words and your thoughts… everything that i am zero in. not to mention eye contact. but it will be nothing new.
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I can relate entirely. I fucking hate interviews, and I don’t understand the point of a tie either. I just recently started questioning the whole point of a tie, and it makes no sense. Good luck though. I know interviews with more than 1 person in the room can be very intimidating.
So if you were hiring someone, how would you do it?
I hear you loud and clear. Everytime i’ve had to go to a job interview (back when i was still looking) they passed on me based on my answers even if my knowledge and experience were better than the other people applying. They should just be honest and say “if we like you you are hired, send us your matchcupid.com profile!” and be done with it.
give yourself credit that 1- you got this far and 2- that you are going to the interview!!
you are stronger than you think- i don’t know anything about the corporate world so maybe this is stupid but what if you were up front and said you were a little nervous- honesty goes a long way… doesn’t it?
Good Luck!!
I know what youre talking about. Never forget that the world is about how you present yourself or what you present yourself as. If you wanna get anywhere rather practise showing off in front of some interviewers than advancing your actual skills needed in the job. Also Im wondering why you said theres at least one women among the interviewers after pointing out that you hate being judged by stupid people. I hope its just a misunderstanding. If you want my honest opinion though it would probably best to not assume most other people are less intelligent than you. Even if that actually was the case, never act like you’re thinking that way. Even if you’re the smartest person on earth, convince yourself you’re not, cause otherwise that attitude might ruin any situation where you depend on others.
Not to start an argument or fight (there has been a few lately) but i’m guessing quaero said it because of personal experience and only referencing interviews (not other aspects of life). It’s normal that most people that interview you have little to do with the section you’ll be working in, or are just outside outsourcing that really have no idea of what you are going to do (i’ve ran out into this even on final interviews, that’s why i’m sticking my nose where i shouldn’t, lol). But yeah, being humble is best on interviews (but not too much or you are passed on because you are too pasive and lacking ambition… hey, this seems like dating!).
Your statement about interviews might be correct, but surely not always, and it surely depends on what job you’re going for. But I guess it kinda makes sense to test the skills of an applicant on the one hand and the personality through interviews on the other hand. That way you dont need interviewers to fully understand the pure working skills, and let other human resources guys focus on the rest.
Still, if the interviewer is judgemental youre basically fucked. But going in an interview with that expectation will pretty much result in the same outcome since most people who think and say they are more intelligent than others are the exact opposite, and the interviewers will realize that.
Yeah, you’re right there, it’s their job to see through you and your attitude. Hope the op got lucky with the interviewer he got.
@ClairDeLune I don’t know why but i feel like you are saying things from experience. If that’s the case then thanks.
The Interview: it went strange. they didn’t ask any professional knowledge but only personal things. and i am such a fool i kept spilling my personal thoughts out honestly. i have always been so alone in my internal world that i take even simple kindness to heart and just pour things out. I trusted them too easily. well they didn’t show any negative sign but… when result comes out, if i find that they failed me in interview, i don’t know, perhaps i’ll lose whatever trust i still have left in society. i’ll take that very personally. they had no right to ask me personal things. It was they who pressed for it. they shouldn’t have smiled and showed kindness if internally they were judging me negatively. every time i’ve trusted others i’ve been betrayed. perhaps this will be same too, and i’ll never trust anybody again.
Being honest should be a good thing, but for people like us it surely isnt most of the time, especially when you’re so dependent on the person you’re talking to. There are so many stereotypes and prejudices against depressed folks that you have no chance but to skip that subject entirely or lie about your mental state. The problem is that as soon as you make up stuff you seem unauthentic, and people might notice that.
Being able to just pour all your thoughts out and talk about yourself in an honest way is a really good thing. Trusting people too easily might sound stupid and have negative effects on you if you meet the wrong person, but it still is a sign of a good character. Don’t give up that part of yourself. If one day you’ll find a person that’s actually worth being trusted all the waiting will have payed off.
I hope the interviewers appreciated the fact that you were honest with them and include that in their assessment. Good luck!