Do I have to?

People can sense desperation and most will instinctively want to avoid it-it’s almost a sign there is a deeper problem, like someone who had a physical disease. So if you’re looking for love the last thing you want to do is project neediness…it has the opposite effect. Unless the other person might be in the same boat and wants to take a chance on you.

I could say I’m in a similar situation-I have friends/family but no significant other and I played my cards really badly. When I had many opportunities with women, I became arrogant, overly picky and also negligent. I foolishly assumed those opportunities would always be there-but one day you wake up and the party is over-the contacts you had are completely gone.

But I have a lot to offer that person when I do find her…plus I’m not abusive/promiscuous or fucked up like many guys are out there. But frankly I’m not in situations to meet women. Most of my friends are hitched already-so they don’t go out to clubs/partying and so forth. So its that much harder to meet girls and dating sites really suck for me. Plus I’m still picky since I’ve dated very attractive girls in the past.

But I veered off from your post…if you are in a situation where you can get out and meet girls or guys…then take advantage of that. Act normal and it’ll eventually happen. If you have high standards, then you’ll need to probably lower them. I’ve considered that also…but I’m planning to get back in shape, get a better job and I hope that’ll be enough to make me more appealing to those I’m interested in.