Hello,
Well, I’m anxious to an extreme point right now about future events and was hoping for some advice because I have no one else to turn to right now and I am desperate for some guidance or reassurance, or whatever.
My problem is that I have been invited to a drinking session with nine other close friends for Halloween at which I am praying to stay over night (for obvious reasons and because of the company). The issue is that my mother is doubtful of letting me stay the night and the concept is only a possibility if she meets the host’s mother. The problem here is that the mother knows and is allowing a group of 16 year olds to get blind drunk for a night. My dilemma is that I am worried that my mother will find out – because its quite obvious she doesn’t trust me already (not that I have ever given her any reason to not trust me).
The reason I am so stressed about this is for two reasons:
- She will just in general find out and prevent me from seeing any of my friends (who do an excellent job at relieving my metal stresses and problems like depression and anxiety)
- She will find out and prevent me from going to my first Florence and the Machine concert on the next Saturday
- She will find out and send me to my father (who she doesn’t know was physically abusive to me in my childhood years as I was the only one in the family who experienced it) – she has threatened this before.
It seems really stupid, but this is kind of like the first time I’ve ever been invited out anywhere; and I’m not going for the alcohol, I would be just fine with sitting there, not drinking and watching everyone else have at it. This is just incredibly stressing. It wouldn’t be that much of an issue either if my mother and I weren’t living on our own. If I stay the night somewhere else, she would be on her own and I know that’s a major cause of her disapproval. I don’t know, I just feel like I need this – just like one night to be a teenage self and not have to worry about the little or important things in life. Please help me on this one.
2 comments
If I were you, I wouldn’t go. You might end up drinking there anyways, even tho you are not going for the alcohol. But that’s not the case. You have to ask youself “is it worth it?”. There are so many risks, sometimes it’s great to give up on something so things don’t get fucked up later.
But hey, I am not you, so you are the one who shoudl decide. Good luck! 😉
Why don’t you use those words with your mother then? “Mom, I need a night just to be a teenager and have fun with my friends.” She was an adolescent once, and I bet she went to parties too. People grow up and somehow forget what it’s like to be young, but maybe if you remind her… Plus, she’s a grown-up adult, so you shouldn’t have to stay home just so SHE won’t be lonely. She could always go visit friends or family herself on that same night, perhaps. (Maybe suggest that to her.)
P.S. Florence + the Machine is a cool band.