So i have or i guess had a best friend who i considered like a sister but i feel like she didn’t feel the same. We have been best friends for three years. I think that the worst part about losing your friend is not losing them but feeling like you are losing them. I feel less important when she talks to other people. I know that i can be easily replaced. She is sooooo pretty and smart. I just already hate myself and i thought since we were in similar sitiation we would have EACH other back. But i guess not. I can not go on loving someone all the while knowing they do not love me back. But nobody is gonna love me.
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I was best friends with a girl for 12 years. We liked each other, but we wanted other friends too. Long story short, she ended up meeting some cool new people and started hanging out with them all the time, and didn’t invite me along. I was kinda hurt and realized that she and I were ultimately too different anyway… her personality was almost the opposite of mine. So I walked away and stopped talking to her. Eventually (a couple years later) I made a new best friend who was in my life for five years. After that I met new people. And so on. That’s just how it is – friendships are often temporary. Sometimes people change and drift apart over time. Don’t feel too bad.
If a friend backs off a bit in a friendship it doesn’t mean they’ve stopped loving you. People’s personalities aren’t fixed, they change, and when they do your relationship with them changes. Bonds of friendships aren’t chains. It’s more like mutual surfboard riding. Enjoy it for what it is.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Realizing that friendships are a mutual decision and one that can change or dissolve over time (from either of the parts involved) is something that no one tells you, and finding out is never easy.
Not to long ago i had a talk about this with my mom (me giving advice to my mom… i always find that funny) regarding friends an relationships… in a nutshell what i told her was that in the end, the only person that’s going to be your best friend and enemy at the same time is yourself, because every other person that appears in your life can either stay or go, but that’s out of your control (unless you want to chain them up, lol). Sad, but friendship is one of those things that you enjoy while it least, but you have to be prepared for whenever it ends or changes.
……but i love how we had each others back. We laughed at dumb shit. I love her. She is my sister…my reason for smiling…tbh she was the only reason i stopped cutting. But i can’t force her to be my friend. She’d rather do shit that make people talk. I always gave her my all. Gave her my last. If i had 200 dollar and she wanted something that cost 199.99 i would pay it. Because i love her. But she doesn’t love me. I just want someone to love me the way i love them