If you are reading this then you know you are guilty of this.
If you are too scared to read this then you are in denial.
If this causes you pain/hurt/makes you feel uncomfortable then maybe just maybe I might be saying something that has value and meaning.
There are way tooooooo many people on here that put themselves down
way toooooo often.
Here’s the facts,
you are depressed,
you’re suicidal,
your life sucks,
you cant get a girlfriend/boyfriend
you fill in the blanks.
You know what SO FUCKING WHAT!!!!
Do you have to label yourself as pathetic or useless or ugly or a waste of space or all the other horrible things you say to yourself because your life sucks? Well do you?
Seriously we are all just different, that’s all.
We are sensitive, we feel and hurt more than others and most people just don’t get that or understand that and that is why we feel alone in this world.
We are all beautiful people deep down inside underneath all our crap,
there is a pure soul that just wants to be loved, treasured for our uniqueness,
and most importantly understood for being so different.
Why won’t anybody here realise this?
I have been posting lots of uplifting positive helpful loving compassionate posts to you all and getting hardly any feedback from you.
(those that have I sincerely thank you)
So Why? Isn’t that what you want, someone to help make you feel even just a little better, someone to understand your pain and actually have some compassion for it, someone to accept you for who you are without even knowing you.
Please open your hearts and let some love and pure kindness in to it.
I have plenty to give and this is even when my life is shit, even when I’m falling apart and want my life to end.
I felt this tonight. Recently if anyone noticed I had posted a message on how I was feeling better, well it all went to shit again, but I will never put myself down for it, because I know and believe I am a good person and I’ve just been dealt a tough life, that’s all.
So please everyone, just fucking deal with it and accept the crap without putting yourself down and calling yourself a worthless piece of shit that deserves to die, because I for one don’t believe you are.
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how is that even accomplished
weve been told these things for a long time
Little by little. It can’t happen over night if this is a life long pattern.
First make a decision to just stop doing it.
You might not stop doing it straight away but it has to first start with that decision.
It all depends on what you are putting yourself down for.
Ask yourself is there really any solid truth to this statement about myself?
Like so many say I’m ugly, but in who’s eyes?
Societies eyes, an ex trying to hurt you, someone else’s opinion.
Seriously I don’t believe anyone is ugly. Its a matter of perception and its the perception that needs to be changed.
Everybody is beautiful in some way.
Look at the animal kingdom. There’s some pretty god dam ugly scary looking creatures out there which I actually find beautiful.
I love crocodiles and sharks and they are 2 of the most feared creatures on the planet and people view other people like that too so how is it not possible that someone would not love the way you are?
Its like hate your life but don’t hate yourself, because you are not your life.
Your life is something that happens to you, and you are the one experiencing it. They are separate. That’s why I say don’t blame yourself or beat yourself up for something that is separate from you and usually beyond your control.
There’s just way too many examples and possibly advice to give so you may have to give me a specific thing about yourself that is the hardest to change -the worst put down you have.
tbh, you’re pretty lucky that some people gives a shit on your posts. Unlike mine, thought it was the solution, turns out that it’ll only make me feel more isolated inside.
Well said
You are a good person Suicidal Angel, and it is nice to read nice posts once I’m a while. thank you.
But you can’t deny this is a medium for a lot of people to air their feelings and then they are going to do it the way they need to.
It’s specially hard not to put oneself down when you’ve tried and tried to fit or to feel well and you just don’t get to it.
A lot of people here have grown in very complicated environments and heavy situations. It’s years and years of violence against them. So it’s gonna take years and years to convince them the world has a lot more to offer. And that becomes difficult when there are days when nothing seems to be going fine or when every bit hope is shattered to pieces.
I know my problem is basically chemical and when I am down I get really desperate. But I am also obsessive and I keep repeating myself things that hurt me and that I can’t put out of my head except here. And doing so and reading people’s comments help me see how small those ideas actually were.
But for other people is a different necessity and if they are doing this writing and this self put downs is because they need to take them outside for some reason, so this ideas don’t eat them alive from the inside… or something like that
SP is a safe space–or it should be–for people to vent. Whether that be through talking about death or talking about how much they hate themselves, it is meant to be a place for people who have nowhere else to go to get those feelings out in the open. Kudos to you for finding the ability to keep a positive mindset. Scolding people who aren’t in a place to do the same, however, is not, in any way, supportive or positive. Please consider the impact of your words before telling already depressed people to “just fucking deal with it”.
Yes it is.
A safe place I mean.
It is a safe space, and people should feel able to say what they need to say. But people vent in all kinds of ways and we won’t always like what they say. If we attack what we don’t like, is it still a safe space?
I didn’t read the last line properly but I do understand the meaning of this post. There is a tendency to reject compassion and uplifting comments which is understandable. Whoever its directed at, just doesn’t believe the good things about themselves (myself included). But it also isn’t wrong to point all this out. Its easy to find the good qualities in others and not in ourselves.
You should feel safe to post how you feel regardless of negativity.
If members, including myself, have concluded themselves and their lives as worthless then so be it, it’s their right to state that. It doesn’t mean they are worthless, we all have positive attributes but unless society recognises them it’s all too easy to dwell on the negative. To rant is what this site is for, to say how you really feel in a way that’s impossible in your real life environment and those around you in real life.
It should always be safe to post here and it generally always is. I believe when commenting a fine line has to be trodden between being too positive and alienating the OP and being too negative and strengthening their negativity. ‘Fucking deal with it’ probably won’t be of much help to anyone on a suicide site, I understand what you meant but people ‘deal’ with it precisely by ranting. Just stating my opinion, hope not too opinionated.
If everyone could just ‘fucking deal with it’ the majority of us wouldn’t be on this website…
I do not think I need to call myself a worthless piece of shit in order to believe it.
I hate myself
I hate my life
I wish I was never born
I wish I could die
I tried to again the other night
But there’s always an intervention of some sort
And yet I don’t call myself a failure or any other names people use to describe themselves,
which only come from whoever in their childhood made them to believe that about themselves, or someone they gave their heart to that put them down so much to the point where they believed it or society or medical people who label you crazy when you’re not.
All I say is take back your power that you gave away to others in the first place.
The ones that put those labels on you in the first place.
Keep hating life, keep hating yourself, just refrain from calling yourself names.
That was my only message and sorry to those that may have been hurt by it being taken the wrong way.