At this point I’m trying to find a way of telling my mum I want to leave I can’t take it no more I guess I found the love of my life and I sabotaged the relationship by cheating on her I didn’t want my kids to come from a broken home now they have iv become everything I feared why do men cheat ? Why do we get tempted so easily? just the thought of her loving someone else is killing me let alone another person raising my kids the emotional pain is far worst then the psychical pain love really dose hurt I’m sorry for all the bull shit I put you thought over the years I just can’t forgive myself I didn’t mean to ruin us
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Religious people think that the worst thing you can commit is to not repent. If you leave this world without making amends for what you’ve done, that’s the worst thing you could possibly do. If you really feel bad, the best way to show it is to make things easier on the kids. 10 years down the line, they’ll be more concerned with how you did the right thing then whether or not they come from a broken home
Yeah I no I think they better off if I’m not around can’t do things as a family no more I didn’t want them to live how I did
And plus I don’t know who to make a mends it’s almost been a year
@Drowning – bud, I’ve been there. Trust me, I can relate to how you feel and I know it isn’t easy. When you royally f up like that, the BEST way to get a handle on things is to stay calm and set an example of the man you are now. Ever tried wearing clothes over a scraped elbow or knee? It’s a mess and it hurts, right? You must give it time to heal, and you know that part of your self will never be the same, there’s no way to avoid the scar.
Forcing things, being pushy, arguing about YOUR mistakes, about how YOU feel, how SHE is rejecting YOU… You’re beyond that now. You’re a family (nothing is going to change that, not a divorce and not even death). So it’s time to shift the focus to your children and their wellbeing.
My friend, there’s a HUGE difference between a Broken Home and a Broken Family. Don’t pull the plug prematurely, because what they now NEED is the example of a father who owns his mistakes and has the strength and the love for his family required to make it right for them and for him… and for the rest of their lives, not yours.
Your wife? Well, things may or may not be what you would hope for, that’s the reality of it. However, I have to tell you my OWN experience: at the beginning and right after my mistake, she wanted nothing to do with me. I tried pushing for an opportunity to make it up to her because “after all these years together and everything we’ve been through, WE deserved a chance!”
As you are now aware, all that, everything you’ve built together means ZIP at the time. So when I understood that and took a step back, it was clear to me that the time to ask for a chance for me would come later. We all needed time to heal. BETTER then, it was my opportunity to show them what I was capable of doing for them and to mend the hurt that I caused.
10 months later she gave me the chance I had been asking for “to see how things work”. It wasn’t a permanent Yes yet, but I gladly took the opportunity. 4 months after that, we were back together and ever since. We’ve been together for 23 years, High School sweethearts.
You see, how you right your wrongs is what will make the difference, and accepting the fact that a No for an answer is perfectly acceptable. Remember that a straight No is always better than a forced Yes.
Forgive your self, start there, you’re only human. It’s hard to make others happy when you are not. So be strong, be there for them and go after that opportunity! Isn’t your family worth fighting for?
I knew you’d agree.