I’ve survived suicide before, but like many people like me, I’ve never gotten over the depression. Quick backstory information, I OD’d about 3 years ago. Now suicidial thoughts have come back (note that I’m not actively suicidal right now), and it seems like my family is hostile towards me again when I need them most.
I know what it looks like, I’ve lurked on this website for several years. The reason my family are more hostile to me when I’m depressed is because I clamor their attention about it a lot. The truth is, I NEVER complain about being depressed.  I don’t ‘hide’ it from them, but I certainly don’t say all the time, “I hate myself… I’m going to kill myself” or anything like that.
The one time in years I am honest to them about how I feel and what is going through my mind, they yell at me and make me feel horrible, which are one of the reasons why I’m depressed.
I am in a situation where I can’t see them in person (because of distance) but they request frequent contact via email or whatever.
I come to you for advice and your thoughts. Should I sever contact since they aren’t helping? What do you think about family being hostile towards frequently depressed sibilings/children?
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“What do you think about family being hostile towards frequently depressed sibilings/children?”
Disgusting, but entirely predictable. Despite being able to “understand where they’re coming from,” i still find it repugnant.
Next time they make you feel horrible, tell them “i already feel horrible enough, and i don’t need you to make it worse, but that’s what you’re choosing to do.”
It’s up to you, to decide how often, or whether to maintain remote contact. Try not to “feel” their expectations and pressure to respond. Respond when, if, you feel like it. If that’s not good enough for them, remind them to check their expectations.
Generally speaking, i would recommend minimizing contact with hostile people. Whether their hostility is abrasive or hurtful enough to justify ceasing contact with your own family, is your call. If it hurts too much, don’t do it.
Just my opinion.
They aren’t helping, leave their asses.
No, you should still contact them via email. They request for that because they want to know you are safe or not.
You could.. Just do whatever makes you feel good.. All the best..Its not a big issue, don’t worry about parents..Theyr just worried about you. Think of them as worried and depressed themselves, just self eluded into believing they are right by yelling at you. Find a solution. Maybe talk to them and tell them that what theyr doing is shit and if they continue to do so, well you will severe contact