I’ve been a shut-in for months now, only going out to get food. Lately I haven’t even been going out to get food. Been ordering food so all I have to do is go down 4 flights of stairs. But even that’s hard to do now. A lot of days I go hungry because I don’t have real food in my apt and I don’t even want to face the world, even if it’s so little as having to walk out my apt and go down and meet my delivery guys.
I feel pathetic but the only thing I do is go online, go to suicide project, go watch youtube videos, cry, watch more youtube videos, cry some more, then go to Netflix when I can’t cry anymore.
How do you guys hermit? And is it that bad?
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I can’t.
This sounds exactly like my life.
I’m trying to be a hermit by avoiding people as much as i can, but unfortunately i have to go to school everyday, so being a hermit is kind of hard.
Idk if that’s bad, i only know that it makes me feel better.
A hermit here but I still talk to people online so…
I’m not a true hermit i still go out but not often… Oops
I do the best I can, but often work gets in the way. Other than work, I stay home and play video games and order delivery or pickup, and make my boyfriend get it for me. I also don’t talk to anyone, except my boyfriend and occasionally my mom or sister. It may be “bad” to do, but it makes me happy. I don’t feel anxious or stressed. I would play video games at my house for a living if I could.
I’ve been living like this for years. I don’t recommend it.
If I did I’d be long dead. I’ve learned something about myself recently, I directly feed off the energy of those around me, as I’m sure many do, so if I’m alone, I’m the only one around to feed off of, and im poison so… Yeah. I did it for a while, but I had other things to feed on, rather than people, but that didn’t turn out so well.
It’s those “other things” that keep me going considering I don’t have many people in my life and honestly I like it that way. Yeah, I enjoy talking with people but I couldn’t do it 24/7. Well, I’m an introvert so I suppose that makes sense.
What are these “other things”? You mean substances (food, drugs, alcohol, weed)? I have a vast empty hole that I need to fill, but preferably something that won’t kill me. Or at least not unless it’s on my own terms…
I’m too poor to afford drugs, heh. But yeah, food and alcohol and entertainment like shows and films and sports (American football, for me). I also read books occasionally. I’m not the most reclusive person there ever was, considering I’ll go out to cinemas, bars, and casinos sometimes, but I almost always go alone.
Sounds sort of like my life before i started going to classes. And actually my life is still that, plus classes (and every time i’m there i’m counting the seconds to come back home… and when i get here i’m counting the second to leave, lol). Whenever i go grocery shopping i make it count so i won’t have to go out that often. I also shop at different shops whenever possible so people won’t remember me. Yeah, kinda paranoid on my end but… heh, i suppose being a hermit does imply a bit of insanity.
“I also shop at different shops whenever possible so people won’t remember me.” Haha! I thought I was the only person who did that. When staff begin recognising me at any establishment or shoppe, I try to stay away for a while. It’s not easy to be totally anonymous where I live, however, since there aren’t many alternate options available.
*staff and customers
So i’m not the only one? awesome! that lowers my weirdness in 1 point. 1 billion more to go. (no, really, i thought i was the only one who did dumb things like that, lol).
How do we get out of it? I hermit because I don’t like people. Most people have been rather shitty to me my whole life. So if I hermit, I can escape that. But… damn the fact that humans are social creatures! I feel so lonely most of the time. But I really don’t like to deal with shitty people. Hence…my hermitting and talking only to ppl over an interface…lol
Reminds me of when I was a student. Lived off energy bars for months, just so I wouldn’t have to face cooking in the communal kitchen. Still went to classes though (leaving my room was an effort everytime.)
Unless you’ve got people willing to enable you, complete hermitude just isn’t an option long-term.
I usually use the self-service machines at supermarkets (less interaction than a delivery driver). I avoid small talk with all but a few colleagues beyond pleasantries. I don’t socialise at all. I steer clear of people wherever I can.
It allows me to get by day to day. But I’m incredibly lonely.
Gotta find someone you can stand being around.
Hm, I thought it was just me, that I can’t stand to be around most people. Most people just irritate the shit outta me. Haven’t found anyone I can stand since my last bf, and that was 6 years ago!! :'(
I stay in my room as much as possible. Since I live with family, I’m obligated to come out and speak and have to be bothered for certain things. It’s a toxic environment for me. I don’t care for these people, to put it lightly. My therapist told me I’d be better off moving. Since I’m not able to function all the time, the thought of living alone frightens me. I just want to be done with everything.
When my agoraphobia was really bad, I didn’t leave the house for an entire year. Just remembered that. This year I’ve forced myself to a comedy show and out on dates so I’m not 100% shut in, just most of the time.
Impressive. Think the longest I ever managed was four months.Damn family, forcing me to engage with the outside world.
I hermit whenever I’m not at work. (Nice verb btw.)
I read way too much news, and it’s so depressing and unsatisfactory. I really feel like I’m wasting my time doing it. I would rather watch a movie or a show or play a game, but somehow that requires too much commitment, and might be disappointing. It’s a really dumb habit.
Essentially I spend too much time alone, and it’s not healthy. Ideally, I would spend it reading really good books, playing good games, watching good movies and shows and eating good food. Also sleeping. Maybe exercising. Jerking off.