I don’t know where to go from here. Last night my mother found my instagram page. It had nothing bad on it but she freaked out. Look at my account is Mozar121. Anyways then she wanted to all of my accounts to everything, my email, facebook, everything and when I told her no she didn’t like that and told me to move out. I said I will if that means I don’t have to see you and then I was walking out the door when my dad showed up. We talked for a while which I never do but I told him somethings I’ve never told anyone. After all that I was feeling better but now whenever I see my mother I feel like wanting to kill myself. I can’t stand looking at her and I just need help on how to avoid the thing that will happen if I do keep seeing her. Help me please.
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u don’t have to kill yourself over this. it’s ur mom’s fault. if there was nothing bad on ur account. I don’t know how old u r. anyhw, have a talk wit ur mom. tell her u understand her concern, but she needs to respect boundaries also. if u not doin anythin bad, u deserve ur privacy. though I feel in parents’ eyes even a small thing can be bad. talk to her and if u still feel suffocated move out….i am goin through the same shit where parents think they own u. being watched and judged all the time for no reason is not easy to take. all I can say, become independent.
I would recommend trying to reconcile with her or make your father talk to her. If you’re old enough for her to be able to kick you out then you’re old enough to be able to have your own privacy. She legally has no right to that information unless she thinks someone is being harmed. If that were the case then the police would have to be involved.
I don’t cut myself–I think that people who do have a lot of courage and other people don’t recognize it.
One thing, though.
A parent or guardian does not have any blanket right to go through an older child’s private diaries or computer accounts. They really need to go through a social worker or through a law enforcement agency, where they state precisely why they need to read those records.
A parent does have legal authority to limit or deny computer usage in the first place, or try to block access to certain websites, but that’s different–it doesn’t require spying to do that.
It’s also illegal in most cases for a parent to throw their kid out into the street before they turn 18. Even if the kid is too tough for them to handle, or if they don’t have financial resources, this remains true. They must at minimum seek a placement.
I don’t know if any of these apply to you. I’m not judging either you or your parents here. But I believe these three items are true.