I came here a year ago as close as I have ever come. I tried to OD, kindof…you know what I mean but the will to survive stopped me from going all the way. I tried to hold on, fought but its not going to get better. I have tried to understand and cope with what my wife of 28 years wants but I can’t. My health gets worse and she just isn’t going to be there for me. She “didn’t sign up for it” I guess our vows meant only if we both stay healthy but whats done is done. Every ounce of trust […]
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for months talking to others about how they too can get past the rough times. Find one happy thing etc etc and here I am, unable to follow my own advice. Those that are familiar, understand….those that are not, probably can get an idea what I am going thru. Nothing has changed with the other guy, if anything I think there is a stronger attraction but not to the man but to the affair. I’ve had 4 cardiac events since from the stress and the last week has been a constant struggle to smile. I find myself thinking about just letting go again. Of course […]
My quick story, 49 years old living in chronic pain for 10+ years, disabled now, lost a $200,000 income, married 27 years/together for 31…..When I was young, 16 ish I tried to OD and survived. At that time, I thought life was over and never going to get better. Flash forward to today. I will be in a wheelchair soon due to pain taking away everything, my wife of 27 years tells me she wants to separate and has a boyfriend-reason….Because she can’t handle taking care of me anymore so imagine losing everything in life you worked for including a family due to a disease […]
About a month ago I posted my situation. Married 27 years, living in chronic pain from several spinal surgeries that have failed, copd in stage 2-3 etc…Basically a 49 year man with the body of a 90 year old. My wife had told me she was having an affair and leaving me because she could not handle being married to someone who had lost everything and was a burden on her. My quality of life was in the toilet already but the affair and losing her had sent me into a deep depression that I had never know before. I found this site and was […]
Without going into details, I think Ive fought as hard as I can but my wife leaving me after 30 years is just too hard to handle. It has set my chronic pain off to new levels from stress. I haven’t slept since Sunday night and crying is non stop. I hope there is an afterlife, I want to believe we do come back as something or someone else. I just don’t understand how you turn of feelings and leave someone like this. I wish she could understand the hurt she caused me and our two sons. My death will only make it worse and […]
I told my story before but it’s been a week and I am still here. I am a chronic pain sufferer who has been married 27 years. My wife has just admitted to an affair and feelings for this person. It is mainly because I lost everything, my company, our lifestyle etc etc year ago and I have never recovered due to several spinal surgeries. The ache in my heart is so overwhelming, I continue to push her away due to my depression. I cannot live without her, both emotionally and financially. I dont want to miss my sons wedding in October, grandchildren and growing […]
I am a 49 year old man who has been married for 27 years on March 31st. I have suffered from chronic pain for many years, has several surgeries. I lost my company in 2009 when the final injury happened and now am on long term disability. I already didn’t feel like a man so when my wife had an affair in 2013, I thought life was over. Somehow things worked out but I found out yesterday, there is a new guy. She blames me for it. She blames my disease. She said she deserves to be happy, she didn’t sign up to take care […]