Chapter Two of my story, which began with, “On Wednesday Night, I broke.”
On Friday, December 2, I attempted suicide. I hung myself by my neck with a cable TV coax strung through a metal shelf. I failed, because I was startled by an unexpected sensation of falling. I told my wife, and she called my mother, and the two of them put me on a sort of informal “suicide watch”. This is what happened after that.
On Sunday, my mother came over and spent most of the day with me. She’s a former cop and detective sergeant in the Sheriff’s Department, and her line of work took her to just about every unnatural death in our county, including suicides. She took my description of what I’d done stoically at first, but she did break down at one point, and I was sad that I had caused her to feel that way. She suggested that we cut off the coax in the bedroom, to keep me from being tempted. We got a big serrated knife, and I knelt down in the closet to cut the cable off. Only thing was, my body wouldn’t let me do it. After trying three or four more times just to lay the blade on the coax, I said that I couldn’t bring myself to do it, and I handed the knife to her. My body would not obey my instructions to cut it off. I didn’t want to cut it off. I wanted everyone to leave so that I could hang myself with it. So she cut it off, and took it home with her to discard.
From then on, I was never alone. Either my mother, or my wife, was in direct line of sight of me. This was the game plan to get me to my Wednesday appointment with the IOP facility. But I was still cycling through these “dissociative waves” that demanded that I try to hang myself. I went to work on Monday, where I had a split shift. I handled the morning class okay, and I talked to our administrative assistant about FMLA and short-term disability. But I was having cognitive issues in the evening class, which was on Java programming. I couldn’t finish sentences, and I would lose track of my thoughts and not remember what I was talking about. It was similar to the previous week, but much worse. I finally had to let my class go to lab early and went home to recuperate. I was unable to recall enough to teach my class. On Tuesday, I only had to endure office hours. I entrusted one co-worker with my story, and she acted as my watcher that one day. I wasn’t permitted to drive. Both Monday and Tuesday, my wife drove me to and from work.
Wednesday came on December 7, and I entered the realm of Centerpointe Hospital. I went to the IOP facility in South County, and I told the intake therapist my story. At one point, she stopped me and said, “Give me one good reason why we shouldn’t have you hospitalized right now?” The best I could manage, no joke, was “Because I have to work tonight?” She didn’t buy it, and she told me just how serious what I’d done was, and they went into full court press to get me to agree to hospitalization. Reluctantly, I agreed to hospitalization.
I called my wife Ann to tell her what was happening. They drove me to the hospital, which was in another county to the north, and I checked in. It took about thirty minutes, which mostly consisted of waiting in a small room while I signed forms and ate lunch (which I truly appreciated…I hadn’t thought of that in advance). They moved me to the nurse’s station in the “adult ward”, where I was examined from head to toe, and had any and all objects taken from me that could be used to harm myself. This included my iPhone, and I gave it up reluctantly since I was born to be on the Internet. I had my last suicide wave while sitting by the nurse’s station.
After an hour or so (at least, it felt that long) I was assigned to the “acute ward” where I was under 24-hour suicide watch. At first, I didn’t know what to do. There was no orientation of any sort, I was just sorta dropped off in there. After a few hours, I was able to get the swing of things. They had group therapy sessions, 4 or 5 a day. The idea was for me to disconnect from the outside world and think about myself. They gave me a med called Zypraxa, which made the suicidal urges vanish, but made me pretty sleepy, so they gave me Geodon. It was effective, but man, talk about some wacky side effects. Body aches (which were treated with another med called Cogentin), blurry vision ( which was take care of with standard 1.25x reading glasses), short-term memory loss, and frequent urination. I had a meeting a day with the psychiatrist who oversaw the ward, and he was pretty good. He listened to me, asked a lot of questions, and tweaked my medication. He agreed that I’d had a psychotic break following the upper-GI endoscope, caused by the general anesthesia they’d used, I’d had on November 28.
After two days of good behavior, and participating in activities, they promoted me to the standard “adult ward”. The difference between the two is that the “acute ward” has the patients who are most afflicted, while the “adult ward” had folks who weren’t quite suffering so much. Lots of in-patient addiction rehab there, as well as those being treated for depression and anxiety, as I was. I spent December 7 through 11 in the hospital.
After two more days, I was discharged and enrolled in their Intensive Outpatient Program. Three days a week, three hours a day. Typically 3 or 4 groups. But I was somewhat dissatisfied by time there. I started out in the “depression/anxiety” group, but on one of the daily mood survey forms I noted that I’d had a drink and they immediately punted me to the “chemical dependency” group, as if all my problems were caused by alcohol. They weren’t, and I tried to tell them this, but they insisted my alcoholism (I’d been dry for 6 years, then relapsed this year, then was dry for seven months, but I had a couple of weak moments and bought airplane shots at the QT a couple of times). As I had frequently noted throughout my adult life, the female therapists were much better listeners than the male ones. I did the IOP for four weeks, but because of the Christmas and New Year’s Day holidays, I didn’t get to see my doctor until the very last day. I’d seen another psychiatrist during that time and was trying to work out meds, but my doctor, when she finally came off vacation, was fabulous. She gave me a diagnosis of Type II Bipolar Disorder (it goes from depressed to normal, no mania) and thought that the Celexa I’d been taking for years was losing its effectiveness (an unfortunate reality of all SSRIs). She redid my meds again, swapping me from Celexa to Effexor, and signed off on my promotion to the Standard Outpatient Program on January 6, which would start out as a day or two a week, then tapered off to once every other week until things were stable. I’ll go to that for the first time this coming Wednesday, January 11.
So that’s my story up to now. The irrational urges to kill myself have been nipped in the bud. I still have depressive episodes, but they’re manageable. When I’m depressed, I still have ideas of killing myself. I’ve kept my “rig” hidden away, just in case. I’ve found, in my own thoughts, that now that I’d tried committing suicide once, it’s not as scary, and I can easily see trying again in the future. Studies have suggested that one third of people who attempt suicide will try again within six months. I think I understand why. I’m not afraid of it. I’m pretty sure I could do it if I decided that was what I had to do. But as I’ve said elsewhere, I have decided not to kill myself. I choose not to kill myself. In the future, I could change my mind, but for now, I want to stay and pursue the treatment they’ve proposed. My family has been super fabulous support-wise, especially Ann and my mother. Oblivion can wait.
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Thank you for sharing your story. Truly, thank you.
Wow great post, but what I am missing is the actual cause. What changed? What is different? How do you now cope?
boy oh boy porphyrous….is that where you’ve been lately….so sorry and yet not if it helped….you were here when i first got here….weren’t you???….
anyway the thing unfortunately that piqued my interest in this ….. the connection to anaesthesia….could you explain that to me if you wouldn’t mind….
btw the way….glad to see about your change of mind….i for one would like to help you to keep your new resolve permanent like….
how far back is the first part?…very lazy here
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@ctb-driver … There should be a hyperlink at the very top of this article pointing to Part 1. Here it is again. http://suicideproject.org/2011/12/on-wednesday-night-i-broke/
@Amakua2309 … My psychiatrist, the one in the acute ward, the one in the adult ward, and the one at my IOP all agree on the anesthesia theory. I was near the edge already — I have many stressors in my life, too many. I’d had an upper GI endoscopy done on Nov 29 and the anesthesia tipped the balance. I haven’t had a chance to converse with the gastroenterologist to see what anesthesia it was. My “test drive” was on Nov 29 and my serious attempt was on December 2.
the reason that i ask is strange….see i have difficulty with anaethesia myself….also have a history of anxiety…overactive amygdala…too much ephinephrine in my system already….and the depression is a direct result of the anxiety….so yep that too…..let me know if the epinephrine is the bad guy here….just saying it is for me….actually anything that triggers the amygdala is not good….know anything about this particular part of the brain….maybe you should check it out….just saying
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let me know what you think:
In my spare time, I’ve begun reading How God Changes Your Brain by Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman. They describe the activity of the anterior cingulate as it relates to the amygdala. The anterior cingulate is a brain “structure that is involved with emotional regulation, learning, and memory.†It also “plays a major role in lowering anxiety and irritability, and also enhances social awareness.†The activation of the anterior cingulate also decreases the symptoms of depression. The amygdala “governs your fight-or-flight response to a perceived or imagined fear.†Apparently, as the amygdala becomes more active, the anterior cingulate becomes less active. The opposite is also true, that as the anterior cingulate becomes more active, the amygdala becomes less active. They also mention that the brain really doesn’t know how to tell the difference between reality and fantasy (hence the “perceived or imagined fear†part of the amygdala description).
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Thank you for your detailed account. It helps “us” to try and understand what you are dealing with. Very informative. I hope you will continue to educate us.
I don’t know what to tell some of you. I’m a bit overwhelmed. Someone asked me, what really caused this? Best that I know, it was the general anesthesia I had for my upper GI endoscope on November 29. On NOvember 30, I tried out a hanging apparatus, and decided then and there that would be my method. On Friday, after a bad day, I did it for real. I fucked it up, which is why I’m here now.
It’s only a matter of time before I do it again. I’m afraid I won’t live to see the end of the year. And that’s okay.
In fact, now…with no one the wiser, I could go do it now. No one would know until it’s too late. I’m afraid I won’t be able to give you a “detailed account” of that unless I fuck it up again. If I do indeed survive, I’ll give you as many details as you desire. If not, I’m dead, move along, nothing here to see.
David
sorry porphyrous…i promised to leave the site in peace and make myself scarce for everyone else’s benefit…and i meant to …i really did….but something made me come back….just want to drop you a quick message and then i gotta scram before someone senses i’m about….
so….what’s up….get a little too close to the lights?… myself…i certainly didn’t get any smarter in the last couple of hours….total waste of time….but a promise is a promise….to be bent but not broken….
did you check out the amygdala?….got a new one for you…..sorry if this is a repeat…having a rough time myself….family issues for the most part….blah….are you ready???? lol
here goes…..there is a direct link between the amygdala and the anterior cingulair…hope i’m getting this right…no sleep again….gonna try after i finish here….i know you wish i’d just hurry up and finish….wouldn’t you????….but no…
so better to get the info i commented on another post earlier….when still somewhat conscious…lol….ah crap will go look for it myself….so tired….yawn brb
okay …i pinched this off of someone elses post….i know not good business…but i’m so tired…and i did write it….so….sorry molly….will be back around tomorrow to explain my ignorance….lol….or maybe you already know about it….lol
you should check out the connection between the amygdala and anterior cingulate….the two work together…balance if you will…the amygdala if stimulated…shuts down the ant. cingulate and vice versa….the amygdala….a remnant from the reptilian brain…doesn’t always function well with the primate brain…ie. the anterior cingulate
that said…if the amygdala is over stimulated for long periods of time such as in the case of prolonged fear or trauma which cannot be escaped with the normal fight or flight response….as in PTSD….or well most of our experiences….some more than others i’m afraid….it changes the balance or pattern and a seesaw rhythm develops
when the amygdala is over stimulated….the anxiety or panic or mania….when it returns….the anterior cingulate is overstimulated….hence the depression…. and since the amygdala is not basically shut down….you don’t give a fuck….plain and simple….when it swings the other way…you look for answers….and back and forth and back and forth
unfortunately more and more of us are being born with amygdala’s that are over functioning at birth….this sets us up for well you know what….your life…imo
for further information please contact ms. molly woppit….she’s the one with all the answers now….i’m done…hey maybe you guys could come up with an answer together….or maybe i’m just really really tired….ah well…where there’s breath there’s hope….ahhhh…just remember if you do run into Molly….she won’t probably know what the heck you’re talking about until you explain….good luck…lol…if you can explain something i’ve done….i keep trying….but…
a promise is a promise…to be bent when necessary but never broken….so i’m getting out of Dodge and putting the old nag to bed….hope i see you around tomorrow night or so….if i’m conscious again by then….lol….keep thinking i’m forgetting something important….ah well….forgive me if i confused you….not my intention…lol…but currently i am confused and the battery is on empty…
Good Nite
Namaste