I’m manic depressive, maybe borderline. There’s this girl I love very deeply, but she does and says these things to me. A small fight, and it escalates, she’s inconsolable. She’s under a lot of stress I know, and she’s a good person basically. She’s combative. I apologize, but I don’t mean it. I console her, but do a bad job. I sulk, because I can’t console her, and I’m supposed to. I feel like a piece of shit. I feel that I don’t have anybody left to open up to. If I say so she gets pissed that I feel that way. Why is she doing this to me?
I wanna jump off the building but I’m not allowed to….
EDIT: you know what’s silly? I’m not even telling her I’m upset, and I’m already suppressing it as much as I can, but somehow she still finds out, and then she takes it personally. I guess I’ll get over it in a couple of days…. meanwhile still gotta figure out how to make sure she’s ok without letting her know I’m still pissed.
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When two person talk to each other and like each other….they always try to support each other….if she is in stress…you have behave like a mature guy….and when you are down…she would take care of you…you both cant be in trouble at same time….i hope you understand what i am saying….. and don’t even think of jumping off the building…its of no use…..this will hurt her more…
Hey,
It is often not easy to deal with people you are in love with (I had the same problem for a whole year).
The end of my relationship with a girl was one of the hardest things I have been going through in the last years. I can understand you, it is a terrible feeling. Maybe it helps you to think about some questions…
Are you really supposed to console her? I think she doesn’t understand why you feel the way you do. Maybe she doesn’t want you to console her? Maybe she knows that you feel bad because of her and she don’t want to hurt you?
Mhmm, I hope I could make you think about it. I hope I could help you, a little bit.
start a good relationship and talk with her about it and how you feel
Thanks, maybe. For the record we are in a relationship. I thought that’s what people do when you’re in a relationship… you help the other person out when he/she’s down.
So yeah I am supposed to console her. To be more precise, I want to. If I just sit by and let her be upset, what the heck am I her bf for? I guess I just need to learn better how to put my feelings aside. I don’t understand why she prefers to cry by herself even when I’m sitting right next to her, and frankly that is what is causing me to be upset.
Why do people push away the very people that want to help them? It’s retarded.