So today I buried the man who was the closest thing to an actual father I had, and at the funeral my asshole of a stepfather who wasn’t half the man my uncle was, had the nerve to come talk to me about what I should or shouldn’t do with my uncles estate. It took every ounce of restraint not to knock his ass on the ground and pulverize him. Afterwards he begins to walk around and talk to people about his work. News flash, it’s a funeral. No one gives a shit about what you have to talk about. People are mourning the loss of a great man, and all people hear is your incessant rambling about what line of work you’re in. They’re not here to hear your sales pitch. It would be different if I thought for one split second he cared about the passing of my uncle. My stepfather never liked him for some reason. Probably because he would never take his advice. He couldn’t control my uncle I suppose. And to top it off, everyone’s bringing their new born baby. News of engagements, newly weds etc. I just want to say, excuse me while I go load my magazine, insert it into my handgun, point it at my temple and pull the trigger. Oh, and a congratulations to you! *gun shot*
End rant.. =)
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So sorry about your loss. That sucks when people are so self centered. :/
Don’t apologize! We all need to let it out sometime. So sorry for your loss 🙁 I know what it’s like to lose someone so close to you. You’re not alone! Stay strong! <3
So sorry for your loss.
Sounds familiar. I’m sure some of it is just distracting conversation, but sometimes people go too far. Sorry for having to go through that.
I remember my mom taking one last jab at my father the day of his funeral. They were divorced for many years and I was never close to my dad, but I always loathed hearing how each would make remarks about the other. That was not a good day to have to hear another one.
Thanks everyone. Means a lot.
I’m so sorry for your loss. And gosh, I am so angry on your behalf right now. All of that was so annoying and insensitive. I can completely understand why you would want to do that out of sheer irritation. Can’t help but wonder how dense they can get regarding the feelings of the people who where there to truly mourn and pay respects. Again, I offer condolences.
It doesn’t matter so much it was your uncle. It was what he contributed to your life. I get it, particularly since my dad was my hero. He was an alcoholic who found and kept sobriety until the day he died. He was dumped on by a jealous brother (an active alcoholic), a druggie/drunk, gold digging third wife who, after the fact, conspired with her family to steal everything he had. I get the viciousness and decisiveness.
I also get the denial, shallowness and superficiality. I get the gross insensitivity to you, his nephew. This happened to me almost 30 years ago and I got fed up. I cut them off from any contact – not that they even fucking noticed – and got on with my life as best I could. I’ve concluded in the subsequent years there’s nothing like a funeral to bring out everyone’s true colors. I decided, fwiw, fuck ’em all.
Most of those people are dead now. While Dad’s siblings each had four children, he had only one. Me. Interestingly, out of all of us, I’m the only one who’s dug, researched, posted and worked to make sure his own father is remembered.