I do not know what to do, what to think. I truly do believe that my husband does not want me around anymore even though he tries to make fighting arguments that he loves me and that he wants me to be here. I am having by far the worst time in my life and he can’t even be there how he used to be. He used to be so patient. Do entirely blame him for it though. He has gone through a lot with me in the last almost 4 years of being together, a year and a half of being married and 11 years of knowing each other. He’s tired, burnt out and has no patience left. It is not that I am upset about us splitting, I am upset that I have lost the last friend I had. Everyone is right, I have pushed away everyone and now I really am left with nothing.
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Good morning PlzLetGo. Endings are rough. How are you doing this morning?
Hello
Marriage can be a period we feel deeply alone.
Loneliness alone is better than loneliness being married.
What about if you spend some time apart? I mean you do a trip or him or both but not together. It could help!
Everyone thinks that to be left with nothing is some kind of curse, something bad. Maybe. Maybe not. When there’s nothing left you gain the whole world. That’s probably not a comfort at this time, but someday … maybe you’ll discover the good in having nothing?
PlzLetGo,
well i don’t really know the facts, but sounds like partly self destruction? i’ve done it myself, if your suicidal you feel the only way you can kill yourself is by driving people away from you, Also it sounds like depression has got a hold of you, once that happens your really screwed, that is possibly the hardest thing to beat, most people don’t even know why they are depressed, because after while it get smothered by feeling bad all the time by day to day life, like the story of two people fighting and hating each other after while they been fighting so long they don’t even know what started it! depression is the same way, next thing you know your asking people what’s wrong with me? looking for the answer, but it’s really simple you can solve it yourself, you need to think back, what started it? THE ROOT CAUSE! Yes it takes a little work to do a self analyses but find out why, and work on fixing it, bad example but lets say you started feeling unattractive a long time ago GAINING WEIGHT! Everyone likes that one! so instead of running your ass off and exercising to lose a few pounds you start eating more, next thing you know your even fatter, the more you get fat the worse you feel, then you really feel hopeless, in that case, stop eating! start exercising and as the pounds start melting away you will feel better and better, because your fixing THE ROOT CAUSE! . what ever the problem is that’s what needs to be fixed. unless you do you will never be happy. Sorry for the sermon. far as relationships go 11 years is a long time, for a lot of people they simply get tired of each other, and need a new start. What ever the problem is you need to fix it, and remember if the problem isn’t you, fixing someone else is even harder most times it can’t be done, they have to fix themselves. OK i hope something i said might help? who know’s! 🙂 that will be $100 🙂 have a nice day and smile!
Well I feel for your situation. I have not been in a serious relationship like marriage since I have been depressed/suicidal. I can only imagine that it has to be Hard to keep the relationship together with your hubby while dealing with depression, sadness, suicide ideation etc etc.
I am glad to hear that your hubby has been patient with you in the past and kind to you…. but you have to remember everybody has their breaking point. Maybe he has just had enough of being in a relationship with somebody dealing with depression and suicide and the stuff that goes along with it. Maybe you should consider a separation. Maybe if you separate for a period of time then maybe you can both take a step back and get a better perspective about yourselves, about each other, about your relationship and about life in general and weather or not you want to continue in your marriage. You both need to really figure these things out and figure out what you each expect from the relationship and what you need to work on together.
Sometimes a separation can be a very good thing. Try it.
Also try to evaluate yourself and see if your own behavior needs tweaking. Sometimes when people are depressed they can act in a way that makes things very difficult for other people to deal with and sometimes that is not fair to the other person(s).
I wish you well with all of this and I hope that things work out for the best
ah, a glimpse into my future. Im having some of the same troubles but I havent been with mines for years. I actually decided to call it off