I was just wondering, about certain people who hurts us so much, never appreciated us, took revenge on us for some reason, never bothered helping us when we’re in need of something, but we never failed helping them for anything, and so on.. would just get all the best things in the world. In fact, i personally felt like I am a loser because I have always been good to everyone, but people who never been good to me are in a good position in life, but I’m not. I heard somewhere saying that we need to do good deeds to become a good person. As far as i know, I never had anything against my friends, family and my loved one. I always loved them for who they are, and had always been there when they need me. But some people tend to ignore, or just pretend like I’m stranger, when they already got what they want. Some approach me back just to make me feel bad, after achieving something that I did not. I’m really upset over this. I wish I could ask God all these, because I have no one to talk to. What do you think was my mistake? Should I take revenge on the people who didn’t appreciate me for what I have done for them? I just want to know, whether is it so difficult to just respect me as a human? People don’t like me being honest and kind. Their behavior making me to hate everyone around me. What was wrong being a good person? All I did was just to help, I never had any bad intention towards anyone. Its making me to loose interest in life.
I’ m regretting for not taking my own life long time ago. I waited because I believe that everything would get better, but it has just gotten worse. Too much pressure from each side. I’m suicidal almost everyday because I haven’t found a reason to live. I just wanna leave and never come back, I wouldn’t wanna interfere anything or anybody. We’re born in this world, for a reason, but when we put a lot of effort in it, and when we don’t get it, we give up. Is there anything worth fighting for in this world? I put too much pressure on myself, till I forgot who I really am, and how should I really be. I can’t seem to handle this anymore, it’s going nowhere. If I just kill myself, people would just cry for me for a few months, then everything gets back to normal, besides I don’t worth anything in this world. I just feel sad that I’m leaving the world because I have never been appreciated and that hurts too much. We’re just born in this world, to suffer and die in the end. 🙁
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Stop doing nice things for people. Then laugh as their lives fall apart without you.
You are not alone. Just know that. You are a great person. Continue to be that. Only not to the people who aren’t appreciating it like they should. Don’t get revenge – You’re better than that. Just surround yourself with the people who do for you as you do for them. You’ll feel a lot better instead of wasted on those who don’t deserve you.
As the saying goes “No good deed goes unpunished”. Don’t put too much trust in people. I sometimes feel the same way as you do now. What have I done wrong to deserve this ? Maybe it is a test that I am supposed to pass..but no it just keeps on getting harder..why? The world will try to bend you into its own way and probably succeed. I sometimes wonder what is the point then. Everyone breaks at some point! I come here to this site to find people that feel the same way as I do. I want them to succeed so that I get hope too. Take care my friend.
No revenge. It’s a loop you don’t want to get into. I have seen the same syndrome time and again, and very recently within myself. I recently had to face the fact that my oldest friend — 30 years plus — is one of these. With no malice. That’s important to realize. He isn’t intentionally abusing the friendship. We were just friends so long, and it is just in his nature to try to get thinsg free and to use connections to achieve ends. He is not evil or cruel. he is what 99.9% of people are – self centered and selfish. I am too. IT’s all about trying to balance the innate human quality of selfishness with manufactured human qualities like charity, generosity and empathy.
Blame God and Nature. These traits that cause so much pain are from man’s evolution. It is a survival instinct from the primitive areas of the brain. From a time when food was scarce, and predators stalked us, we developed (useful at that time) instincts to steal our neighbors food, avoid the “Weak” because they attract predators, and to look out ONLY for ourselves. Society strives for better but the base motivations cannot be easily overcome. And you can look to the animal kingdom to see this in action. Alpha males killing babies that mean them no harm , just because they might someday eat thier food. Hell, if you have more than one pet, look at them at the food dish. Despite a never ending supply of all the food they can eat with no effort on their part, they will still steal the other pet’s food. They will eat the other one’s food first, then defend theirs. They may play together and sleep together – but at the drop of a hat, will selfishly steal what is not theirs and destroy it. It is simply nature’s survival instinct, but it is painful in a creature that suffers from conscious thought. The fact that animals can’t contemplate behavior or remember the past or predict the future allows them to survive this. “You bastard, you stole my food, and I hate you and.. I — oh, look a squirell! lets chase it buddy!”. people, cursed with self awareness and a sense of past and future and mortality, are not well equipped to get past the selfish, unintentionally cruel, behavior of our fellow humans. WAR! That is the human condition. Consciousness, but selfishness. I still think we are nature’s worst invention. Well, wait, after mosquitoes.
Oh fuck do I hate mosquitoes
as a giving person, you’ll attract a lot of takers .. they can sense a giver miles away
they don’t believe in reciprocity nor in their responsibility for your well-being, they can only pretend until they no longer have to .. takers are slaves of their overdemanding egos .. I’m not sure many of them are happy, it’s in the ego nature to always want more
your ego doesn’t make you blind to other people needs .. you can choose to see it as a gift, a curse or it’s just how it is
my question is: what would you gain from their reciprocity ? why does it matter that much that people must ‘return the favor’ ?