DON’T YOU DARE
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Before you decide to take your life, imagine who will find you. Imagine them walking into a room, and seeing you just hanging there. Whether it be your little sister, little brother, mother, father, grandparents, a friend. Imagine what will happen when they find you. No, they will not say “Finally, they’re gone.†No, they will not say “I’m happy they did that.†No, they will not say “I never loved them anyways.†They will die. Their hearts will break. They will hurt, more than you ever could. They will cry, scream, and break down. They’ll believe it’s all just a dream, praying to wake up. Except, they won’t feel that for a few seconds, or a few days, not weeks, nor months. They will feel that until the day they die. Everyday will be hell. They’ll think of you every second. They’ll hate themselves for not being able to help or save you. They’ll wish they could die too. They’ll want to give up, just to be with you. They won’t be ever be happy again. They won’t smile. They won’t go back to their daily routine. They’ll die every time they walk past your room, or see a picture of you, or think of a memory with you. They’ll think, but stay quiet. They’ll visit your grave, feeling a knife go through their chest every time. And every morning when they wake up, no matter how long it’s been, they’ll wake up to thinking they’ll see you, only to be let down once again. And every night, they will cry themselves to sleep, because even though they refuse to admit it, know you’re gone forever.Before you decide to take your life, think of your family, burying you. Yes, your own mother and father are planning your funeral. It’s supposed to be the other way around, but it’s not. They’ll have to call the cops, sign a death certificate, pick out clothing, buy a tomb stone, a casket, pick out flower arrangements, and more; All for their child’s funeral. The morning of your funeral, everyone who loves you is wearing black. Tears are streaming down their face, while their heart is breaking. Everyone who you thought didn’t need you, or didn’t care, are waiting in line to see you. They aren’t waiting in line at a party, or a graduation, or at a wedding reception. They’re waiting to see you, hands folded, lifeless, in a casket.Before you decide to take your life, think of everyone you will be hurting. Don’t you dare say no one, because absolutely everyone will be affected. Your grandparents, won’t have a grandchild anymore. Your parents, won’t have a child anymore. Your brother or sister, won’t have a sibling anymore. Your pet, won’t have an owner anymore. That person you sit next to in class, won’t feel your presence anymore. Your teacher, won’t have a student anymore. That time your grandparents told you no, will haunt them forever, thinking it is their fault, that you are now dead. That time your parents yelled at you, will haunt them forever, thinking if they didn’t yell at you, you would still be here. That time your sibling said they hated you, will hate themselves, because they believe you would still be alive if they said they loved you instead. Those kids who made you feel bad, will wish they were dead too, because if they just smiled at you instead, you would be here. That teacher that you didn’t meet her expectations, will feel like a failure, because you would still be here, if she believed in you. Everyone, who has ever been in your presence, will hurt, because if they showed you they cared, you would still be here.
Before you decide to take your life, think. Don’t just think of yourself, think of the consequences for everyone else. No one’s life will be the same again. That person who God made specially for you, won’t have you. That happiness that was waiting for you, will never show again. Before you decide to take your life, realize that you may be ending your pain, but you’ll be starting a lifetime of everyone elses.
If you are feeling alone, and think that suicide is the only way out:
My ask is open, and I’m always here. I’ll never judge you. I’ll try to help you.
Talk to me :/ if this makes you feel worse, please email me, im here and i CARE!! your a complete stranger but i care, and i’ve been exactly where you are, reach out to me :3 Please don’t give up hope
– I RECENTLY SAVED A YOUNG 32YR OLD WOMAN on here ,
I can help and im here.. i never left her, and i’ll never leave you, no matter how many times you push me away, i’m always here!
If you live by yourself, or your in a situation where your parents or anyone doesn’t care, I DO.  Talk to me
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Hi Alexa… Welcome back. This is really cool what you’re doing.
It Feels great to be back 🙂 I’m ready for what anyone throws at me
What about when it’s not about whether other people would be upset?
I know some suicide survivors. Yes, it was tough for them at first, but they moved on, settled back into their routine, and life goes on. Some people are in way too much pain, be it mentally or physically, and have tried to overcome them, and can’t. So what should they do? Continue to exist in agony, so that maybe someone else won’t hurt if they’re gone. In my case I have a couple of “friends”, who I rarely see any more since I developed physical problems that keep me from doing much, and I perceive they don’t care for my glum moods that occur as a result. My distant family barely communicates with me, and really won’t miss me. I do feel bad for my cat, when I go. He’s truly my best friend. But he’s a mellow, friendly, social cat, and I’ve provided for him in my living trust. I’ve also provided nicely for the few relatives and friends I care about, along with my favorite animal rescue organization. I’ll be providing more for them by departing, than I am by this depressing daily existence I’m in now. Your post is nice, in that you are attempting to help people. That’s a good thing. But many of us are way beyond all the clichés and platitudes that people can throw at us to try to make us feel better. There won’t be hoards of people haunted by my absence. The few that will get over it and go on with their busy, delusional, materialistic lives.
@renobill-
I know we don’t say much to each other but I just wanted to say its comforting to know you still have enough fight left to post comments and help others with your perspective.
When you decide to go, it won’t be the same comfort around here.
I have thought about that scenario….which is why I decided not to kill myself at home but I have an issue with this post. Your intentions may have been to help but it comes off as trying to guilt people into living….Yes people will be sad and yes they will feel hurt but I don’t think its fair to say that they will suffer their whole lives. If that’s the case then why do murder victims families, accidental death victims families, natural death survivors and casualties of war families are eventually able to heal, accept the death and move on? …Suicide is commonly characterized as a “selfish” act…Those who characterize suicide as “selfish” tend to focus on its effect on those left behind, rather than on the pain of the suicide, and whether it is fair to expect them to continue living so that their friends and family will not be deprived of their company. Some people who feel that their lives are not worth living, and who would very much like to die, nonetheless continue living for the sake of saving their friends and family the sorrow that their suicide would entail. Is this merely what is expected of them? Or might we characterize their action in continuing to stay alive as particularly selfless? If selfishness is failing to exhibit even a reasonable minimum of generosity, selflessness must be exhibiting an especially high level of generosity, much more than is ordinarily expected. If one’s suffering is so great that one prays for death every day, and yet continues to live to spare one’s friends and family the pain of the lack of one’s company, we must certainly say that for that person, merely living is a selfless act. In fact, in many cases ,if not all, it must be that it is selfish – even indecent – for a suffering person’s friends and family to expect them to continue living, if his suffering is so serious that it outweighs their interest in his continued company.
@RT30.. thanks!
@PainNlife.. good post, I agree with your comments!
I know it will effect everyone in my life, thats the only reason im still alive (and im too much a ***** at the moment) it dosnt make me less depressed or suicidal. I get what painNlife is saying about it sounding as if ur guilting us but I still really like this post for some reason so I wish you the best of luck at saving others, id love to have some empathy left to do what u do
Dear Alexa,
Thank you for your post and that’s great that you are offering your help. Thank you a lot for that.
I have to agree with painNlife though.
I fully, fully understand PainNlife’s comments… At the same time, if somebody is offering to help, I’m not sure that’s a bad thing.
Ultimately, each person has to decide for him- or herself what situation they find themselves in. Perhaps that situation warrants reaching out. Perhaps it doesn’t. If Alexa is willing to be a sounding board, I don’t see the issue. People, of course, are still free to decline her offer. No matter what people choose, I hope the best for them. I’ve been in my own dark stages. I know how bad things can get.