my bf was going to commit suicide. we’ve always talked about it, but this time he sounded serious. he made me promise not to tell. he said he was going to write him suicide note and leave as soon as he was alone, most likely the next day. he said goodbye, and thank you for being an amazing gf, and sorry about a hundred times. But i was scared so i told my friend who knows all this and happens to be his ex. ive convinced her before not to tell anyone, but this time she said fuck it im telling, and told her mom. i told my parents too, and they ended up calling the police and sending them to his house.
he says he’s happy i saved him, but he constantly gets mad at me for it, and says he cant tell me anything now cuz i broke the promise. and i feel so bad for telling but i was scared.
and now i dont know what to do. i love him but im sick of all this shit… but if i break up with him he will kill himself.
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You did the right thing. You can not take blame for someone else’s action.
You’ll never know whether he was even going to go through with it, despite what he says. People often blame others when they can’t come to terms with or take responsibility for their own lives. It’s unfair to burden someone with the constant guilt or even worse to cling onto them by making threats. There has to come a time when you realise that you do not control his life, he does and if he decides to take a certain course of action that’s not really your responsibility. In a way it’s emotional blackmail.
so basically you’re telling me i should just give up and let him kill himself. great advice. -_-
That’s not what he’s saying. You can’t live in fear that he is going to take his own life. You just can’t. You need to do what is good for you, even if it seems wrong now, you’ll soon see that it was right in the long run.
Can you realistically imagine yourself being at his beck and call for the rest of your lives. Nothing lasts forever and one day, whether it’s now or two years from now there is going to be an impasse.